Man oh man! Lots of great names for Emrys' mom. I've narrowed it down to three. I'll let you know who got the winning name and what it is on Friday, so that person can have bragging rights that he named a Bohemian Nights character.
Nice knowing ya, Emrys. Unless the gang has one hell of a counterargument, Emrys will be staying with his mom until she dies… which might not be that long with the amount of pills she takes every day.
Just my opinion, but I think Emrys is right to question whether his mother needs all those prescriptions. The pharmaceutical companies have done serious damage to the state of medical care in the USA and have gotten extremely wealthy in doing it. Doctors are complicit, as are the educational institutions that train them and the government regulators who license them. One should always be skeptical about prescription drugs and make sure they are very aware of the potential side effects, especially when combined with other drugs or even consumables as simple as foods.
We only get one body, so we should do our best to treat it with natural therapies and remedies before subjecting it to caustic treatments by the medical establishment. At some point you have to trust that people have your best interests in mind, but who can be certain without a healthy does of caution?
Emrys, I think you need to counsel your mother on getting proper treatment for her ailments, help her temporarily with her relocation and adjustment, then move along with a clear conscience and the intent to keep in touch. She may be playing the guilt trip card too heavily, but is it because she is mean-spirited, or simply scared, lonely and increasingly unable to care for herself? Does she even want to any more? There’s a lot of unanswered questions and I can’t claim to have any answers, but if necessary, consider helping her as much for your sake as for hers. If you make a best effort and she rebuffs or abuses your care then that will be on her conscience, not yours, and who knows, maybe you will be the catalyst that sees her attitude and health improve?
Ah, well said. You’ve also nailed down the situation very well. This has been kind of rough to write this part of the comic. A lot of this is pretty autobiographical for me, including all the meds my mom was taking. But lets see where the story eventually takes us.
I actually disagree with the Idea of temporarily moving back with his mother. Emrys’s mother exhibits classic symptoms of being a narcissist and is trying to get her supply from Emrys. if he does move back in with her then she will never let him escape. His best bet is to cut contact since she has shown that she has tried to use guilt to manipulate him and make him question himself every time she speaks to him at a time when he needs support the most. Whether she mans to or not is irrelevant since that seems to always be the end effect and it is far more likely she will drag him down than he will lift her up. He needs to cut contact with her as harsh as it sounds.
That’s certainly a valid assessment, and I don’t know if it was a response to my post, but just in case anyone is wondering, at no time did I suggest he actually move in with his mother, I specifically said, “…help her temporarily with her relocation and adjustment, then move along with a clear conscience and the intent to keep in touch.” I can see how it could be interpreted as living with her, but temporary is defined as, “lasting, existing, serving, or effective for a time only; not permanent:”, which allows for a broad time scale. Assuming Emrys can afford the transportation, that could mean a couple of days or only a few hours, either of which could be beneficial so long as he planned accordingly.
I don’t enjoy the company of narcissists and agree that he should avoid her, but since she is his mother, I think he owes it to himself to make sure he feels good about leaving her so the guilt trip loses it’s effectiveness over time and he doesn’t regret not doing more for her in the future. Carrying around anger or resentment, especially for a family member or someone with whom you have a close relationship, is generally more destructive for you than it is for them, so it’s a good practice to have a clear conscience so you can leave the anger, resentment or even hatred where it belongs, in the past.
10 thoughts on “789 Choices Too”
Gorbi1985
Dát sheer terror in Emrys’ eyes at last panel. Very well played, Eric.
And at first panel is retil instead of retail. If it isn’t local dialect, English Is my second language.
bohemiannightsthecomic
Thank you. I wasn’t going for that amount of terror, but it does kind of fit.
Corey C
Well, looks like the decision’s been made.
Nice knowing ya, Emrys. Unless the gang has one hell of a counterargument, Emrys will be staying with his mom until she dies… which might not be that long with the amount of pills she takes every day.
bohemiannightsthecomic
Haha. yeah, it does seem a little bleak for our hero…
ChrisH
Cigarettes have killed more Americans than all wars combined.
bohemiannightsthecomic
yes they have. Luckily, I can say I never have smoked cigarettes myself.
Thracecius
Just my opinion, but I think Emrys is right to question whether his mother needs all those prescriptions. The pharmaceutical companies have done serious damage to the state of medical care in the USA and have gotten extremely wealthy in doing it. Doctors are complicit, as are the educational institutions that train them and the government regulators who license them. One should always be skeptical about prescription drugs and make sure they are very aware of the potential side effects, especially when combined with other drugs or even consumables as simple as foods.
We only get one body, so we should do our best to treat it with natural therapies and remedies before subjecting it to caustic treatments by the medical establishment. At some point you have to trust that people have your best interests in mind, but who can be certain without a healthy does of caution?
Emrys, I think you need to counsel your mother on getting proper treatment for her ailments, help her temporarily with her relocation and adjustment, then move along with a clear conscience and the intent to keep in touch. She may be playing the guilt trip card too heavily, but is it because she is mean-spirited, or simply scared, lonely and increasingly unable to care for herself? Does she even want to any more? There’s a lot of unanswered questions and I can’t claim to have any answers, but if necessary, consider helping her as much for your sake as for hers. If you make a best effort and she rebuffs or abuses your care then that will be on her conscience, not yours, and who knows, maybe you will be the catalyst that sees her attitude and health improve?
bohemiannightsthecomic
Ah, well said. You’ve also nailed down the situation very well. This has been kind of rough to write this part of the comic. A lot of this is pretty autobiographical for me, including all the meds my mom was taking. But lets see where the story eventually takes us.
josh
I actually disagree with the Idea of temporarily moving back with his mother. Emrys’s mother exhibits classic symptoms of being a narcissist and is trying to get her supply from Emrys. if he does move back in with her then she will never let him escape. His best bet is to cut contact since she has shown that she has tried to use guilt to manipulate him and make him question himself every time she speaks to him at a time when he needs support the most. Whether she mans to or not is irrelevant since that seems to always be the end effect and it is far more likely she will drag him down than he will lift her up. He needs to cut contact with her as harsh as it sounds.
Thracecius
That’s certainly a valid assessment, and I don’t know if it was a response to my post, but just in case anyone is wondering, at no time did I suggest he actually move in with his mother, I specifically said, “…help her temporarily with her relocation and adjustment, then move along with a clear conscience and the intent to keep in touch.” I can see how it could be interpreted as living with her, but temporary is defined as, “lasting, existing, serving, or effective for a time only; not permanent:”, which allows for a broad time scale. Assuming Emrys can afford the transportation, that could mean a couple of days or only a few hours, either of which could be beneficial so long as he planned accordingly.
I don’t enjoy the company of narcissists and agree that he should avoid her, but since she is his mother, I think he owes it to himself to make sure he feels good about leaving her so the guilt trip loses it’s effectiveness over time and he doesn’t regret not doing more for her in the future. Carrying around anger or resentment, especially for a family member or someone with whom you have a close relationship, is generally more destructive for you than it is for them, so it’s a good practice to have a clear conscience so you can leave the anger, resentment or even hatred where it belongs, in the past.
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